Finding the ‘right’ mate


Dear Hillary,

I’ve been meaning to write this email for some time, but always gets pushed onto the back burner, until now.  There have been a few guys who have written in defending the Thai ladies, and this is another of those.  Da and I have been an item for 15 years and married for the last 13 of them.  We have three kids, the eldest 17 from Da’s previous marriage and our two 13 and 11.  We lived in the States for six years and we had some problems with the neighborhood accepting our mixed marriage, but things are better now than it was in those days.

After I retired we came back to Thailand to live as Da and I felt that Thailand was a better place to grow our kids, and we have not regretted that decision.

Sure there are some problems, but there always are, aren’t there?  Nothing that we haven’t been able to talk through, so I just wanted to say that meeting and marrying Da has been the best thing in my life, and to all those guys out there who are reading all the terrible things that can happen to anyone, I say just take it slow, get to know the girl and see if she really is the one for you, and then enjoy life with a good woman who will look after you for the rest of your life.


Dear Jerry,

Thank you for your very sensible email.  You did what I expect every man should do – look critically at the situation, keep your brains inside your skull and use them, and take your time.  If she is the right one for you, she will also be looking at you to see if she wants to spend her life with you as well.  A good marriage is always a two way street.