Sandman has doubts


Dear Hillary,

Sorry I had to send this letter by motorcycle taxi, but I was afraid you might recognize me if I delivered it by myself.  As you will see when you read it, my problem comes in trying to find out if my Thai GF is being true and faithful to me, or maybe two-timing while I am away for six weeks at a time (I work off-shore).  I am suspicious because every time I ring her it rings through, but then she rings me back 10 minutes later and says she was having som tam and had left the phone in her handbag.  If I question this, she always has a girlfriend there who tells me that they were having so much fun they didn’t hear the phone.  She also needs to know exactly the time I will get back to Thailand – makes me think there is someone else in the house who has to vacate before I get back.  What do you think about me getting back early one month?  I am getting all screwed up inside, thinking about it all when off shore.


Dear Sandman,

You did not tell me how long has your relationship been going.  Is this something new, or have you been together for years?  There must be more to it than just not picking up the phone when you ring.  You have left out too many details, Sandy.  From what you have told me, there is nothing to get worried about – but give me the full story.  I don’t think that getting back early would achieve much either.  Even if there was somebody in the house, they could be genuine relatives staying for a couple of days.  How would you know?  There are private investigators if you want to spend the money, but sit down first and look at the situation and then make up your mind as to whether you really have a problem, or is this something related to yourself and your attitudes and expectations?