As long as she’s 18?

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Dear Hillary,

How important is the age difference between a Thai woman and a European man?  I’m not talking about 10-20 years year difference but 40-50 years.  She is in her 20’s and he is in his 60’s.  Can this really work.  One Thai woman I asked said it is good because the man will die early and she gets to spend all the money.  She also said that if they have a disagreement he will have a heart attack and she doesn’t have to put up with him anymore.

Alfred

Dear Alfred,

Do I get this right?  You are actually thinking about setting up house with a 20 year old?  Festina lente (hasten slowly) as these can be troubled waters.  Yes, I do know of couples with that age difference who are very happy, and I also know of couples with that age difference whose relationship has ended up in disaster.  Petal, there are many things to be considered.  She will want kids, while you had done all that 20 years ago and don’t want or need toddlers round the house.  She will want to get some education and not be a housewife, while you did all that stuff years ago.  And what about the physical side of the relationship?  What you used to do all night now takes you all night to do.  Correct?  Without being specific, you will have to be very lucky to find a young woman willing to be your carer for the next 20 years.  Very lucky.  In fact, extremely lucky.