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Heart to Heart with Hillary
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Dear Hillary,
You might think this is a stupid complaint, but it is driving me mad. My
girlfriend and I have been together for 10 years, she is totally trustworthy,
she runs the finances and we have no money problems. Like everyone these days we
use ATM cards to get the money out of the bank (is there anyone who uses
passbooks any longer?) but this is where the problem is. At least twice a year I
get a frantic call to say she is somewhere and can’t pay the bill because she
can’t find her ATM card. OK, so it’s only twice a year, but it means I have to
leave the office and meet her at the bank to apply for another new card, and
that takes more than a couple of minutes, and my passport and photocopies and
all the usual razzamatazz. I don’t know if she leaves the card in the ATM
machine or drops it somewhere, but we’ve never had one returned. I have told her
to be careful with it, but the message hasn’t got through. What can I do? Any
suggestions?
ATM Allan
Dear ATM Allan,
I can understand the frustration, my Petal, but I haven’t got much experience
with ATMs I’m afraid. None of the banks seem to have an ATM that gives out
anything less than 20 baht, so the card isn’t much use to me! You say that you
have asked her to be more careful in the past but that hasn’t worked, so telling
her again is not going to do much good, other than make her angry and you even
more frustrated. What about asking for two ATM cards, one you carry and one that
she carries? That way she will always have access to the account, as long as you
don’t lose yours! Perhaps one of the more switched on banks could install a GPS
sender so that cards can always be located? I think that’s a brilliant idea of
mine!
Dear Hillary,
My wife never hears the phone when I ring her up. It is always left in the car,
or at the bottom of her handbag and she doesn’t hear it. Have you any
suggestions?
Mark
Dear Mark,
Buy her one of those lanyards that goes around her neck and the phone hangs from
that. I take it you have checked to make sure the ring tone is turned up as
well. Of course, she might be ignoring you, and in that case, nothing will work!
Dear Hillary,
My Thai GF has got in with a crowd of women who sleep all day and party all
night. And when I say all night, I mean all night, getting in at 5 in the
morning sometimes. Since I work all day, I can’t even chat to her on the phone
and she is pretty strange at night if I ring to ask her when she is coming home.
Should I be worried? Will this pass or what?
Greg
Dear Greg,
Yes you should be worried if this is a regular occurrence. Most of these
all-night people are taking ya-ba or the like to stay awake. You will have to
find a time and discuss this with her. However, if she prefers her friend’s
company and not yours, it is time to move on, my Petal. Or shift her on - you
are being used here.
Dear Hillary,
I know that plenty of older men get taken in by these young Thai girls, but they
can’t all be acting? Can they? I have met a really nice young woman, and OK I
met her in a bar, but she seems to be genuinely interested in me and wants to
keep me company. When I finish drinking and say I must go, she says “I want to
go with you.” She seems near to tears when I say that I only have a small studio
and there’s only enough space for just me. I am getting to the stage that I
don’t want to go to the bar, because I don’t want to upset her, but I like her,
so I end up going there anyway. Is this all an act?
Reg
Dear Reg,
Let me guess, you are a pensioner and probably a widower. Let me guess again,
she says she is 25 and has two children at the village being looked after by her
mother and the two Thai husbands ran away, so she had to come to work in the bar
to support her mother and her children. The truth of the matter is that she is
32 and is near to tears when she sees a walking ATM slipping away from her. Yes,
my Petal, they are very good actresses, and you are being set up in the trap.
Now is the time to leg it, but if you continue in this relationship you will be
writing to me again in three months to say your money just disappeared. And
don’t buy her a house, car or motorcycle, and the buffalo is perfectly well!
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