An Englishman’s home is his castle


Dear Hillary,
I have been married to my Thai wife for 10 years. We get by on a pension from the UK, which buys less and less every year. She runs a little Mom and Pop convenience store downstairs, but that isn’t doing too well recently, lucky to cover the rent. Her two younger brothers have moved to Pattaya and they are staying with us but all they do all day is lie about the place watching telly.


I really don’t like this situation and I told my wife that as things are tough, they should pay rent. She gets angry when I say this and threatens to leave. What can you suggest, Hillary?

Dear Bobby,
It looks to me that your wife is looking at you as the family ATM. This shows a breakdown in communications between husband and wife. After 10 years, she should have a very clear indication of your financial state (or lack of finances state). The two brothers should be out looking for jobs and earning their keep. Unfortunately some folk (especially males) look for the easy was through life, leaving all the hard work to the women of the household. You need to discuss this with your wife, urgently and come to some agreement, or she will have painted herself into a corner!