Last week one chap was unsure whether he was a being set up by his Thai lady. If you are so happy don’t waste your time in bars at all. Bars are where you will only find “sob stories.” And yes, your mate is interested in you for financial security. Otherwise she would be with someone her own age and from her own culture. What outer ring planet did you beam down from?
I think you are being a little harsh on the chap. There are many successful unions across the cultural divide. No need to delve into the whys and wherefores. Keep your wits around you, and enjoy the company. Mind you, they say Pluto is quite nice this time of year.