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Dear Hillary,

One of your writers was wondering if his wife (or GF, I can’t remember if he said) was cheating on him. Thai women have cheating down pat, and you can tell the ones who are going up country and have up country friends staying down here, that they are all covering for each other. The ones from the bars slip into it more easily, but there (sic) sisters then follow. If it’s OK for Noi then it’s OK for Nam. They come from completely different cultures, completely different morals and different ideas on what’s right or wrong. The crime here is in being found out, not in the cheating. All the overseas men should understand this before hooking up with a Thai woman. Do you agree with me and how I see it?


Dear George,

I have received many letters (shows how old fashioned I am) on this subject over the years. In most cultures I have experienced it is the same. If you don’t get found out then nobody has to tell lies or cover for another person, so in that way the cultures are the same. It just seems that Thai ladies are better at it than the western ones. There are books about this Thai woman and foreign man, but there are also books about the western dalliances. The morality is much the same. However, I believe that you need concrete evidence before accusing anyone of anything, not by race. Not all Thai women cheat and not all western women.