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Heart to Heart with Hillary
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Dear
Hillary,
I have been reading your column for the past 3 years, always enjoy your answers
and this time it’s me looking for some answers.
I am 40, and met this girl about 1 year ago that’s in her very early 20s. Not an
issue, because I am not one of the grey-haired golden oldies on pension that
enjoys spending their pension the way they have always dreamt of.
Of course, as with many of them, she works by night and prefer to take her
beauty sleep during the day. That worked for me, I travel each week to Pattaya
to work for a stable, well paid income that can take me to my happy retirement
some day. At the same time, for the companionship I provide the support in small
quantities based on the going-rate for companionship.
Of course, I am not the only companion but understand that everybody has a job.
Over months, she managed to rank in changes to her mom’s home in extend of
300,000 baht, landed a massage shop of over 100,000 baht and upon enquiry, it
seems that there were about 3 other companions in tow since the beginning of
this year, one very old but rich married guy, 2 mid year olds, each providing
for very well paid salaries each month on top of these luxuries, she has it made
but when I found out and asked (I was hoping that I would have been told before
asking but that is not always the norm I believe), she said that there are no
feelings for these people, they are a job and she needs the money. She is not a
big spender and as in every family, relatives are being taken well care of hence
the salaries that are coming in handy on top of the well being of an increased
bank balance each month. She said I am the one she loved and want to have a life
and family with and hence the no cost asked of me, the good thing is that I
believe her, but at one point in time, there was a demand from the one guy to
drop all other companions or the money stops... she tried with me but according
to her the feelings of love has exceeded the feelings for money... however,
demands are coming in now for getting (renting) a condo and next year buying a
home (in her name most likely she says)... and then the fun will start I guess.
She is currently having a visit from the one companion that provides the
ridiculously high lump sums, so I can’t visit her shop for this month, but she
still visits me at every opportunity. That must be real love for now from her.
My dilemma is, how long will this real love last before the love for money and a
single life time well paid for will outweigh the love?
I am not sure if I should move on or tag along and see where it ends up... it’s
mixed emotions and next year may see a new story unfold... as she herself said,
who knows what will happen?
Desperate
Dear Desperate,
Yes, I did shorten it (a lot), but do you know what a sadist is and a masochist
is? In simple terms, a sadist is someone who is nice to a masochist, and you, my
Petal are a prize winning masochist. She must certainly be some woman, with four
of you on the lead at one time. And you don’t have a dilemma - get out of there
now and forget the sweet nothings she is whispering in your ear - that’s if
you’re allowed back in the house after Mr Moneybags has had his fill and she has
filled her wallet. Run!
Dear Hillary,
You may think I’m stupid, but I recently found out that my wife has been
cheating on me. This really floored me at the time, as there was no indication
as to what she was up to. I decided to give her a chance, as this was the first
time she had done something like this. We spoke about how lies kills a
relationship, and she was her old sweet self again. I thought how lucky I was to
have been able to save the marriage. Then in the middle of it all, the loving
dinners and together photos, I caught her at it again. Same guy. Same story.
Please forgive me. I thought about it for a few months, wanting to go back to
how we were, and then I found out she was also cheating on him, as well as me!
What is it with these Thai women? Have they no honor? Are they raised to
infidelity? You’ll never catch me in a (im)permanent relationship with one ever
again. A friend of mine said it’s better to rent than to buy, and I think he’s
right.
Disappointed
Dear Disappointed,
I do feel sorry for you, my Petal, but you probably don’t believe me either, and
I don’t blame you at all. It certainly must have been a shock for the chap she
was seeing behind your back, to find he was being cheated on too! Don’t rush
into anything, and let time be the healer.
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