Dear Hillary,
A couple of weeks ago one person wrote to you about the Thai women telling lies and made out that they were all liars. That isn’t really fair, Hillary. Everybody tells lies, but maybe the Thai women aren’t as good at it (telling lies) as the western women. Have you got an opinion on the habits of Thai women? Can we trust them or not? I’m in a relationship right now, but I am wondering if I should employ a detective to follow her when I’m away (which is for six weeks on and six weeks off). She has a bunch of girlfriends from the bar, and I know that a couple of them have a bit on the side. She tells me she is faithful, but is it a lie? I am getting doubtful as sometimes when I ring her she does not answer, but always has a good excuse like left the phone in the car. Do you recommend I follow it through with a PI?

Jack

Dear Jack,

Get out of the relationship right now. If you are so unsure of the relationship that you are looking at getting a PI means that you do not have enough trust in her for this relationship to work, especially when you are away six weeks at a time. Keep playing the field my Petal. Keep out of the bars, and don’t look at any relationship until you have known the girl for at least two years. It is a minefield out there, Jack and the way you are going you are going to step on something you don’t want.

Dear Hillary,

On my next trip to Thailand I am going up-country to meet my GF’s mother. I have been writing to her for six months now and will come out in December. I haven’t been to her mother’s place before and I am wondering what I should give her as a present, a sort of thank you for having me stay for a couple of days. It is all very new for me and my GF doesn’t tell me much about what is expected. I have spoken to a couple of chaps who have said that nothing is required, but I will get hit for the cost of a village party which they will put on for me. Is it really like that?

Jimmy

Dear Jimmy,

What rock did you just climb out from under? If you have ever read any of these columns, you will have seen that you don’t need to give presents, but sure you will get hit for the drinks at the village party. BTW, the party isn’t for you, Petal, but for all the neighbors and all the other hanger-ons. You are being used, and as long as you know this and are prepared to accept this, then go to the village and have a good time! But don’t think that the trip to the boonies is part of the dating routine. It isn’t. It is a way to gage how deep your pockets are.

Dear Hillary,

I apologize for my unprofessional English. Is it possible that a letter from Germany are not arriving the receiver or right target? I have meet a nice Thai girl in the last holiday and the friendship between us are deepens. I write in the meantime several letters to my girlfriend and she write me back. And we have no problems until now. The last letter I write on August but no answer. Inside the letter 5000 Baht and some picture. I called to my girl at the bar but she said there is no letter coming from me. What will I do? Your newspaper are my only help for my Heartbreak Situation. I talk with other people who are stay in Thailand before and they talk to me that some girls are simply lying. But I am really desperate and I only want to know what is true or not, because I love she very much. Have maybe somebody of the Post staff stolen the letter or anybody else? So I want to know your meaning about this sadden situation. I am thank you and I looking forward of an answer of you to me.

Gunther

Dear Gunther,

Don’t worry about your English as your emotions came through very plainly (and painfully too). Unfortunately I have heard from many people that letters containing money go missing. The answer is to disguise the fact that there may be money in the letter by putting it inside a card or a small magazine. That way when the letter is held up to a bright light you cannot see the money inside. But there are other ways, Petal. A credit/debit card that you can top up from Germany, but she can draw on over here is probably the best way. Perhaps it might also be better to save your money so that you can get over here more often. I don’t think your girlfriend is lying, but does she write to you in German or English?