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Dear Hillary,
My boyfriend recently went to Europe with his family. He stayed there for four weeks. I wrote him a letter immediately after he left and never got an answer. Also, he never called me. At first I thought maybe he was just busy visiting all his family and old friends, but after I learned that he was back in Pattaya, for more than one week already without letting me know about it, I was thoroughly shocked.
I really would have liked to call him, but my friends told me not to. It’s already been more than four weeks since he came back and he hasn’t even tried once to contact me. I am now afraid he doesn’t want to see me anymore. Thinking over and over again about the last times we spent together, I can’t imagine what I’ve done to deserve his behavior. What do you think, I should do?
Being Dumped?
Dear Being Dumped,
As you might have noticed, I wrote your pseudonym without a question mark. I strongly believe he has dumped you. What other reason could there be for not contacting you after his return?
You may never know what really happened, especially if you don’t ask. I suggest you call him and ask him straight out. Even if he tells you he doesn’t want to see you anymore, a clear answer is always much better than always wondering. In your heart you know already that it is over, all you need now is to learn the truth from him directly. I would say, don’t take it too seriously, a guy like him who hasn’t got the nerve to admit the truth, and who instead prefers to keep quiet, is not worth many tears. Try to go on with your own life now and you’ll see you will get over it in time.

Dear Hillary,
A few weeks ago I changed my diet and became vegetarian. My doctor suggested I do so for he believes it would be better for my health. My wife doesn’t agree with the decision. Instead, she laughs about it and purposely prepares meals with meat. She hasn’t even once tried to understand me or give me sympathy. The first few times I only ate the salad or the vegetables which came with the main meal. Now I am sick and tired of her game and I usually eat outside. My wife complains a lot about it, yet she still doesn’t try to accept the facts. Do you believe that after a while she will understand me?
Vegetarian
Dear Vegetarian,
I believe everybody has the right to chose. Be it food or something else. Nobody should try to change your beliefs, instead they should try to accept them.
I know as a fact that many people do smile about vegetarians or even make jokes about them. Those people are not very well informed about proper diets for human beings. Being a vegetarian could mean improving your health, your looks and probably increase your life span. Get yourself some books, brochures or any other kind of information and give them to your wife to study. As far as I understood, you are not forcing her to become a vegetarian also, you are giving her the freedom to eat what she thinks is proper for her, at least she should give you the same freedom, even if it means changing her way of cooking a bit.
Try to be strict about your diet, if you really believe in it, she will eventually understand you.