Dear Hillary,
I’m a pretty easy going bloke and quite happy in my domestic situation, with a good little Thai chick I’ve had for four years. Does everything I want like the cooking (not that she’s not much good at it if it’s not the Isan stuff) and the cleaning and washing and the hand isn’t out too often, but once a month she gets together with her mates and they go out to one of the Thai karaoke places and get sizzled and roll back in at 3 in the morning. They don’t seem to get up to any malarkey but I wonder at times. Do you think I should put my foot down and say no? It eats at me a bit.
Jack
Dear Jack,
There’s a couple of things I think you should keep in mind, Petal. Her outings with the girls is only once a month. If it were every week, that would be a different story. You know who she is going out with, and I would imagine she has a mobile phone (if not two). Talk it through with her and settle on a time for the night to finish and the fact that she has to remain sober if she’s driving home. Shouldn’t be too difficult, but I have to say I don’t like your “chick I’ve had for four years.” Sort of suggests “ownership” and you don’t “own” Thai women. Take away the independence and you have a different picture altogether. I think you should be dividing the chores a bit. You have told me everything she does, but I don’t hear anything Jack does. OK? So don’t let it eat you, let a real partnership grow and everything will be better.
