How do I find true love in Pattaya? The girls all seem nice enough, but I am sure they are only after my money. I do not want to be the cash cow for every bar girl in sois 6, 7, 8 and onwards. I go out with the idea that I will only spend 500 baht, but by the end of the night, it has been several thousands. What do you suggest, Hillary?
Johnny Cash (Cow)
Where you are going wrong, Petal, is you seem to be frequenting the currency exchange fun parlors of sois 6-8 as your happy hunting grounds. The reason there are so many “tellers” ready to look after your money in these soi 6 currency exchanges is to give you the guarantee there is no kiss and telling afterwards. If you can’t stand the heat - get out of the kitchen, my Petal. Or, if you can’t stop worrying about the exchange rate, get out of the soi.
I will be coming to Pattaya at Xmas time and wonder if you knew where I could rent a motorcycle for the time I will be there (2 weeks). Is it insured and is it OK to drive with my French license? Do you ride on the same side of the road as we do in France? Thank you.
The only insurance you will need is a very expensive policy to cover the hospital expenses for the major injuries to your French body after you get run over by an 18 wheel truck. However, if you ride a motorcycle through the traffic in Paris, you could escape damage. The motorcycle will have some sort of minimum accident cover, if you rent from a large enough rental company, but if you deal with one of the side of the road operators, you will be on your own. And finally, do not let them hold your passport as a surety. And no, we do not drive on the right, as in France, we drive on the left, the same as Britain and Japan.
We have not been here very long and already we have had the water cut off from the house (twice!) and the electricity (once) all because I do not understand when and how the bills come. Do they post them or what? I am sure we did not receive at least two, but when I tried to explain this at the Water Department I got nowhere - and had to pay an extra 500 baht to get re-connected. What can we do?
Dear Bill, or as we would say, Dear Bin,
The account is a piece of paper that is either stuck in your gate, or slipped under your door. They look very similar, but the “bin electric” is generally in blue ink and is from the PEA (Provincial Electricity Authority). You do get a few days grace, but once those few days are over, you are then disconnected and in the case of the water, they just remove the meter and smash the on-off handle (just in case you have ideas of joining the input and output ends together). What you have to do is remember what day of the month that the meter men come, and then look for the bin (sorry bill). Frustrating and annoying, but that’s just one of the things that make up “Amazing Thailand”.
My wife has started cheating on the grocery bills and I am sure she has started to sneak the odd thousand baht from my billfold when I am asleep. At first I thought it was the kids, but they couldn’t get to my billfold during the night, while my wife could very easily. I also note that she seems to have less jewelry than before, and when I have asked her where her necklace is she gets very defensive and says she is having it cleaned. I am sure she is not having an affair, as she is always home at nights with me, so what can I do to check? Where is the money going? Do you think it might be gambling?
Dear Emptied Wallet,
You’re sure she’s not having an affair because she’s with you at night. What about daytime, Petal? Ever considered that? However, back to the disappearing 1000 baht notes. The easy way to see if the money is running away is to count the number in the wallet before bed and again in the morning. Even jot down some serial numbers to make it even more evident. The little stock take in the morning will show any shortfall immediately. Unfortunately, when wives take up gambling, the first sign is missing money and gold. You are going to have to be very careful in checking, and then comes the difficult part of confronting her with the evidence. You are in for a rocky road, Petal. Wives have been known to mortgage the house you are buying for her with your hard earned money. Beware, beware.
I was introduced to a Thai Lady three years ago. We hit it off almost immediately and I returned later in 2011 and finally got married in December 2012 at the local Amphur Office. My now wife had been married before so did not want a religious ceremony and as for the dowry I was asked by my wife to give Bht 10,000 to her parents as a token. So, you will see that all Thai Ladies are not out for what they can get. OK, I help the family a little each month but I have never been happier! However, I suggest that all Farangs should tread carefully and as soon as you hear that the family water buffalo has died or papa needs an expensive operation - RUN!
I am so happy for you, my Petal. I do hope your happiness continues for many years to come - provided the buffalo has taken out life assurance.
Does anyone want the company of a broke person? I’m available.
Dear (impecunious) Singha Jerry,
At your age, “broke” usually refers to something like, “I fell over and broke my hip.” You, my Petal, are really saying that you are wanting a cashless transaction (mainly because you haven’t got any)! Perhaps if you stopped donating money to the Singha Brewery, you could start looking for a paid companion again?
One of the receptionists in our company is very attractive and I would like to get to know her better, but I have a problem. I am not the pushy type, so can’t just go up to her and ask her out. She knows my name even though we have 600 on staff, and if I meet her walking into work she is always very chatty and will hold my arm with her hand. She doesn’t wear any rings, so I don’t think she is married or anything like that. She did ask the other day what I was getting her for her birthday, and I almost fell over, but mumbled something like wait and see. I know, I missed my opportunity again. Do you think she is interested? What is the next move, and please don’t say just to go and ask her out.
Dear Bashful Bob,
I feel for you, my Petal. I really do. You are from the UK I presume and it is nice to see you aren’t one of those dreadful lager louts that populate the bars as winter comes on. Even though Thai people are very welcoming and friendly, this girl seems to be giving you a message. You don’t need to be brave to buy her a box of chocolates and quietly present them to her on her birthday. Or if that is too much, just leave them on her desk. Put a card with them saying “From Bob” and your phone number. If she rings you to thank you, then ask her out for dinner to nice restaurant. Not over the top, but one where you can chat and get to know each other a little. However, if she refuses the chocolates, just send them over to my office, marked “For my Darling Hillary”. I will appreciate them.
An Aussie friend of mine says that to see if the girl sitting on your lap can be believed then you have to apply the British Standard (BS) Duck Test, “If a bird looks like a duck, swims like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck” to all Thai women. Your friend must have really gone down the gurgler to be so bitter. All women are not the same. Thai women are not the same as western ones and bar girls are a different species altogether. He feels that all women are out to rip off mankind and all that is left is 0.01 percent of decent women. How pessimistic is that? I think he should stop feeling sorry for himself and get out and enjoy the company of the ladies in the bars. That’s what they’re there for. You don’t have to buy the library when you want to read a book.
Elwyn from New York
Dear Elwyn from New York,
Despite the 50 percent divorce rate in many countries, including Australia and America, all women are very obviously not the same. I’m not like that for one. Despite the friend’s pessimism, his 0.01 percent still works out as 1,000 women, even in Australia. I agree that if you want a ‘good time’, the good time girls are there to give it to you. The problems always arise when the smitten male forgets that a good time girl is just that - a good time girl. A girl for the good times in life, not a girl who is good for life times. It should also be understood that a beer bar is not an outside office for an accredited match-making and marriage agency. I have said in this column many times that you don’t go into a hardware shop if you are looking to buy a piece of cheese.
You know it is pretty interesting to me to always hear the gents writing in about expectations of feminine fidelity when virtually none of them practice it themselves. I have yet to meet a man who does not cheat even within a happy relationship.
I think there is a difference between “fidelity” and “cheating”. My understanding of these two concepts in Thailand is that “fidelity” is an honest and mental relationship, where “cheating” is clandestine and not open at all and is physical. “Fidelity” is then possible on the surface while “cheating” is below the surface - making it possible to have a happy relationship as you said, while cheating. In the end, if you are in a relationship, keep it honest and don’t lie. Lying is the start of the end of any relationship, as many people have found out.
Robert (letter above) is correct as I, and several of my associates, are in committed relationships and “cheat” as often as we think we can get away with it.
As you can see, I rearranged the letters in your name, so that you can remain anonymous. Now, does your partner, who you cheat on, read the Pattaya Mail? I hope not, as your wicked secret might be uncovered, though my clever rearrangement should keep you safe, but does your partner raise ducks, by the way? Stay away from the duck’s enclosure.