Dear Hillary,
Help! I don’t know what to do - or what to wear anymore. I am quite slim but for my legs. My thighs are plump and fat. I’ve tried everything, aerobics, gymnastics, stretching, dieting - the only result I get is that people ask me if I am sick for my face gets so thin. I would like to wear trousers and mini skirts, no way. From my waist down I look like a heavyweight wrestler. My husband laughs about my efforts and says he likes the way I am. But I can’t help realizing that he’s looking at long-legged girls. What can I do?
Heavy Thighs.
Dear Heavy Thighs,
Be happy that you are healthy! The truth is, men will always look at long-legged girls. But do they marry them? He’s happy with you and the way you look.
Still, I understand your problems and will give you a few overall tips to make your legs appear slimmer.
a) Wear shoes with a one to two inch heel and a low cut front, they will make your legs look longer and slimmer.
b) Get rid of part of the fat on your thighs and inside of your knees by massaging with special creams and oils. There is also some new massage tools available who will, so the companies say, make your legs slimmer. One of them you have to wrap around your waist, turn it on and your muscles will be toned by themselves.
c) A tan helps legs to look slimmer. It shouldn’t be a problem in Thailand to get a tan. If you haven’t got the time, use a good self-tanning lotion. A good pair of stockings will help in the evening (wear them despite the heat).
d) Tone your calf muscles by standing with the balls of your feet on a phone directory and your heels on the ground. Raise and lower your heels 10 times.
e) Shape your ankles as you sit by crossing your legs and rotating your feet ten times in each direction.
f) Remove hair regularly, especially on your lower legs.
g) Use a body scrub twice a week and body lotion after every bath or shower. Massage in thoroughly.
h) Wear long, loose blouses above trousers and top as a jacket. It does miracles. Your trousers should be long, never only to your ankles. Avoid wearing tight skirts, floating ones cover a lot.
 

Dear Hillary,
My husband is a wonderful guy. He’s charming, nice, good fun and very kind, but he’s never punctual. He is always at least half an hour too late for anything and very surprised if someone is angry about it. He is always sorry then but still, next time he just can’t get his act together. It drives me crazy. I was brought up to be punctual under any circumstances, so I am usually too early. Sometimes I believe these big difference will drive us apart. What can I do about it?
Punctual.
Dear Punctual,
I understand how you feel. Being punctual, or trying to be, I can relate to the aggressions this causes, but if this is his only fault, don’t let it drift you apart. Since you’ve already discussed it with him without success, counteract it with a few tricks.
If you want to leave at 7:00 PM, tell him you are going at 6:30. While you are waiting, catch up on watching a video or writing a letter you wanted to a long time ago. This stops you from permanently watching your clock. One more thing: Stop apologizing for him, let him do it and, after all, this is Thailand.